Strictly for the Ladies...
I know how he makes you feel. He’s the only person that matters in your world, the only reason you smile, the reason you’re excited to wake up each day. I know the feeling, but sometimes Mr. Right is a big LOSER! Sorry to be so frank, but let’s get real. The signs are there please stop ignoring them. . .seriously. Don’t waste your time, keep it movin’, save yourself some heartache. If you’d like to see the signs of an unhealthy boyfriend, keep reading...
Signs of a relationship you should walk away from...
If your boyfriend makes minimal effort to spend time with or to take time for adequate phone time then maybe he is not the one. A relationship is about sacrifices a relationship is about give and take, and it takes time. If you are the only one who tries to make time to be together, the only one who makes sacrifices or the only one who remembers important dates. The only one who is dependable, whenever he needs you your there but when you need him most he is no where to be found then. . .He’s a LOSER!
If he never takes you out anywhere. I’m not saying that this is the most important, he doesn’t have to take you to Red Lobster on the daily, but a man that truly loves will always look for new ways to show you that he appreciates you, that he loves you, that he recognizes that you are a woman of value who deserves (if only every once in a while) to be wined and dined. If he doesn’t then . . .He’s a LOSER!
If he is always asking you for money. One of the worst questions in life (in my opinion) is “can I borrow $20”. Agh. I can’t take it! Why is he asking you for money? Where is his? Now I can see if he fell on tough times and if he was one who actually paid it back. But in all my experiences . . . he NEVER paid it back. Asking for money . . . a BIG NO, NO. If he does, then yes you guessed it . . . He’s a LOSER!
If you have a boyfriend who can’t lend an attentive ear. Ladies, let’s face it we are emotional beings. When were hurting, when were sad, when were scared . . . just about anytime we want our significant other who we love to feel those things WITH us. We need him to listen, and don’t pretend to listen, but really empathize, give eye contact, give me some feedback, encourage me. If he doesn’t listen to what you have to say early in the relationship, chances are he won’t listen when the big issues arrive, without healthy communication the relationship suffers. So, if he isn’t a good listener, and he’s more concerned with other things, then maybe he’s not the one.
If he isn’t affectionate. If you are anything like me I’m really touchy feely, and I don’t mean in a gross way but rather simple things. Such as hugs of comfort when I’m sad or discouraged. If he isn’t one who can rub your back to ease your pain, without thinking anything sexual maybe he isn’t affectionate. Even actions like the forbidden forehead kiss, there should be signs that he cares about how you feel and he needs to reassure you that he is there not for sex but for security and comfort. . . if not . . .yeap you guessed it, He’s a LOSER!
Here’s a huge deal breaker. If he doesn’t make you feel good about who you are and what you mean to him. When you are around him you should believe that he believes you are beautiful and all he wants, there is no other woman that he desires, if not . . . I have to say it . . . He’s a LOSER!
These are only signs for an unhealthy not necessarily abusive boyfriend for signs of an abusive boyfriend... click here for some additional signs of an abusive relationship.
