“Hey mom, can we talk?”
[ 6 tips adapted from the Web MD ]
 

1. Start young and then gradually add more content and information as they mature- Try to find age appropriate materials to help with the conversation. The ideal time to really start is about age 3 (preschool stage is between 3-5). During this time the child’s attention span is very short, so you’d want to keep any information short and simple.
2. Call body parts what they are - Because sex is such an awkward topic it is common for adults to use more “seemingly” age appropriate nicknames. This is not wise. To avoid confusion children need accurate terminology and explanation of function.
3. Use the news as a conversation starter - Every, once in a while, shocking news related to sex will be publicly introduced, through television, newspaper, magazine articles, etc., use that as an opportunity to converse about what is going on and how it could affect people. For example a study was introduced through mass media informing individuals that 1 in 4 high school girls have an STD. That can affect your child, ask him/her their feelings, and talk to them about responsibility.
4. Don’t use your own sexual escapades as a means to educate your child on sexuality- Think about it, it is pretty embarrassing to think of your parents in that way . . . I guess . . . enough said.
5. Be frank, about what sex is - Sex encompasses oral, anal, and mutual masturbation. When the time is right educate your child about all sexual behaviors the potential risks, and the benefits of waiting.
6. Don’t abbreviate or sugarcoat - Let your child know about the physical and emotional feelings they will encounter in dating. The emotions that are introduced within relationships can cause serious strongholds. Teach them the importance of slowing down, because feelings are real and in some cases take you places you didn’t intend to go.
    

Other Suggestions...
[ Adapted from Fogarty, Kate and Wyatt, Carolyn H. Communicating with Teens about Sex: Facts, Findings, and Suggestions ]

1. Have a two way conversation- Listen a little
2. Use open ended questions that require more than a yes or a no
3. Have more thorough discussions. Talk about family morals and values
4. Come with an open mind, reduce judgment, and show empathy
5. Don’t make this a one time effort. Continually talk with them, make it a habit
6. Be gentle but clear
7. Watch for danger signs
8. Understand that your teen is struggling with the topic just as much as you are
9. Listen to your child’s opinions and find the root
10. Plan ahead and practice
11. Keep it casual
12. Don’t argue, don't criticize, or interrupt. Be stern, and don't make assumptions
13. Know where resources are