Adapted from Modestly Yours by Camille De Blasi
In her book Modestly Yours, Ms. De Blasi gives 10 suggestions that are perfect to aid a parent in teaching your child about modesty and how to model it. Here are her suggestions:
Think about what your clothes tell others about yourself. What do your clothes suggest? Ask yourself that question each time you BUY and put on clothing.
Don’t wear anything you’d be embarrassed to wear to in front of grandma and grandpa.
My favorite rule is . . . “if you don’t want him to look at you there or touch you there then make sure you put clothes over it. Any revealing part of the body without the covering of clothes automatically gives others indirect permission to look or touch you there whether you like it or not.”
Don’t go near pornography or sexually explicit movies with unclothed people. It’s just pretty risky. . . not a good idea. . .period.
Don’t say anything that you think might cause other people to think of you or others as less than what you really are.
When a conversation becomes immodest don’t be afraid or embarrassed to remove yourself from the conversation.
Work on how you see yourself.
Find role models that carry themselves modestly and learn from them.
You don’t have to take it overboard. You can still be beautiful and dress modestly. You don’t have to be draped in a curtain to capture the “modest look”.
Modesty really means that you love and respect yourself. It means that you acknowledge that you have value.
Parents, teach your daughters the gift that lies in modesty. Teach your sons how to detect it in a young woman. If the self image of young girls within society everywhere is ever going to change anywhere it is going to have to begin at home.
